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Soldier Comes Out To Father After Don't Ask Don't Tell Repeal (VIDEO)

First Posted: 09/20/11 03:20 PM ET Updated: 11/20/11 05:12 AM ET

Hours after the U.S. military repealed Don't Ask Don't Tell, a young American soldier stationed in Germany had something to tell his father.

"Dad, I'm gay," the soldier uttered into his cellphone. "Always have been and always known forever," he adds.

His father's reaction? "I still love you son."

With the entire confession filmed and captured on YouTube, the soldier shows relief after his father assures him it won't change their relationship.

Before mustering up the courage to tell his father, the soldier talks on camera about his fears of coming out to his family -- who he says have no clue.

Filmed and posted on YouTube, this isn't the first time he's confessed his sexuality on camera.

The soldier has had a Twitter account and YouTube account operating under the name AreYouSurprised where he talks about what it's like to be gay in the military, notes Gawker. But until now, the soldier has never revealed his face.

The soldier created his channel for people still in the closet, but also to push himself to come out to his family and friends, notes The Guardian.

Watch the video below:

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lambdin1
What's this?
12:52 PM on 10/17/2011
One of the hardest coming out things is coming out to parents and family. It is one of the most difficult things because of the blame! Parents blame themselves and children blame themselves.
One day it will not be an issue. I doubt that I live long enough to see it change. But it will! I've seen many changes in the last decade of my 6+ decades. One mind at a time!
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ISEEWHAT
10:17 AM on 09/23/2011
“As a CHIRSTIAN, I am taught that I am to LOVE the SINNER, but hate the SIN,,,I believe that it is a CHOSEN, not BORN THAT WAY 'life-styl­e",,, my GOD states that HOMOSEXUAL­ITY is a STENCH(Rep­ugnant) in His Nostrils and an ABOMINATIO­N(extreme discust~lo­athing)unt­o Him, therefore, I too believe it that way,,,IT IS THE ACT OF HOMOSEXUALITY THAT GOD HATES, NOT THE SINNER... www.YourSi­nsAreForgi­ven.net
01:08 PM on 09/23/2011
How old were you when you chose to be heterosexual, ISEEWHAT?
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ISEEWHAT
03:35 PM on 09/23/2011
@fallriver...Must have been when my mother taught me about the birds and the bees and how my baby brother was conceived,,,was born with a Vagina and both my brothers had a penis,,,too simple for some to understand
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ISEEWHAT
03:41 PM on 09/23/2011
Must have been when my mother told me about the birds and the bees, and how my baby brother was conceived,,,I had a vagina and my brothers had penis'... might be too simple for some to grasp...
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BornOKtheFirstTime
pedicabo ego vos et irrumabo
06:17 PM on 09/25/2011
You need therapy for your anti-gay bigotry. Serious therapy.
05:08 AM on 09/23/2011
Or they sit in next world lands without much to see in them, desolate: Fields of mud in a gay next world land, or they climb into other people to live in their minds, and they feel them eat and move all the time, unless they're celibate.

A non-marrige can cause some children to not be born that wanted to be born, and they planned to be in this society to get things and experiance machines. They hoped their possible parent would get married, as they wait in the next world to get born to their father of usualy many lives.
Also, "gay" can cause less intelligence. The energy that can be used to think with sometimes fails to rise up to their brains from the lower spine, due to a path for it to get stuck on "reproductive" thoughts. But some gays have a method to keep their minds working. So it can make the country more stupid, less intelligent than it would have been.
It could be suspected to be a Russian communist plot, they consider strength in having sons and daughters to man the farms. If more gays, then a weaker USA, because they will have less workers (sons and daughters) to man their farms, which can feed solders. In old days solders became solders for free food.
05:06 AM on 09/23/2011
Russia - a real Man's country.
USA - wear make up and dresses in the Army!
Russia - all the women love an Army man.
USA - be a woman in the Army!
Russia - be strong and have many children.
USA - date guys and never find out how many children you would have had.
Russia - where you can shoot targets.
USA - where some might want to ask you out and give you AIDS, and you miss some shooting.
Russia - where the woman email you.
USA - where some men demand a right to email you.
Russia - where the girls are pretty.
USA - where the Army men want to look pretty. Will the Army allow nail polish and eye make up?



GAY PEOPLE'S WAITING TO BE BORN CHILDREN REALLY MAD AT THEM.

IN THE NEXT WORLD, MANY LOOK DOWN AT EARTH PEOPLE AND SEE WHAT IS GOING ON. MANY ARE waiting to be born, waiting for their fathers to get married. Most people have waited along time for a machine electric society, and hope their fathers of many lives, many incarnations together, get married so they can be born through them. Sometimes the incoming child's friend claims "jurisdiction", and it is their turn to be born, and then any
05:00 AM on 09/23/2011
others leave, and the child can be born from the next world.
So, it is very sad when a man gets fooled to be, or hear about "gay". Their plans to have their children are lost. And the women they wanted to marry before they were born, go away. And the woman stays single or marries a man they weren't supposed to marry.
Other countries, not as happy as us, want us sad. Russia has had plots to weaken us, and they think if they encourage "gay" in our country through various ways, then they will be stronger, as we are weaker because we will have less of our planned children to help the USA.

From an accurate medium,

From,
Some people in the next world &
John N Maguire III -Brain change medium: hear ghosts and past lives and minds. Also The planet starter (the one who started the design of the planet Earth billions of years ago with 6 women-The Planet Earth's Founders and Elders) (NEW RULE - you can't get penalty if you talk to the planet starter, you can call my answering machine in the next world also). Also celibate religion founder: The Truth religion. And the oldest man - first to appear on a planet.) Took engineering economics at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute.
Check out my web pages, our web pages,
WWW.THINKINGBEING.ME
THE PAST LIFE PAGE http://truebillofrights.com/Page_2.html
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12:23 PM on 09/23/2011
Uh, according to Putin, Gays are NOT banned from military service.
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ISEEWHAT
08:20 PM on 09/21/2011
www.YourSinsAreForgiven.Net
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ISEEWHAT
08:06 PM on 09/21/2011
"I thought I was just born this way!

I knew I was gay (exclusively - like 100%) at the age of 12 and practiced homosexuality from age 13. But at 21, I met a Pentecostal evangelist called Ed and my life was radically transformed. Through his ministry Jesus cast demons out of me, including a homosexual demon. I've now been married for twenty-two years and we have four children. It's a miracle that Jesus could make me straight and even a bigger miracle that he's keeps me straight. My name's Geoff. I want to share my testimony to say that Jesus is very real. His gospel is a gospel of POWER. His power, the power of His Holy Spirit, is administered through stewards motivated by His love and compassion. My faith is not blind, based on mere words. It is based on the Word; the many miracles which I have experienced and witnessed transforming my life and the life of others. It is based on the power of the blood of Jesus. Incredible miracles of deliverance and healing which Jesus has done, and keeps doing, to myself, my family and many, many other people."
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BornOKtheFirstTime
pedicabo ego vos et irrumabo
04:29 PM on 09/22/2011
There's nothing wrong with being gay in the first place. So it's a non-issue.
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ISEEWHAT
07:16 AM on 09/24/2011
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion,,,
12:27 PM on 09/23/2011
Actually his gospel is a gospel of LOVE. I am happy that you are enjoying a hetero life, really. But your situation is not like mine. God and I have a fine relationship despite what all of those so called Christians think. Being gay is not demonic or anything that needs to be healed. But thanks for thinking about me.
02:47 PM on 09/21/2011
Good for you, soldier! I celebrate the end of DADT right along with you. I'm so glad that your father supports you and loves you unconditionally. It's as it should be and it says good things about him. Congratulations on your courage, especially, and your new freedom -- which should have been yours all along...
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garypeter
'it's intolerable being tolerated.'
08:52 AM on 09/21/2011
I am no stranger to the realities of being out. Several years ago, while walking home with my lover, on a friday night as we always did when in town, we were attacked, This man first pistil whipped me, severing my forehead from one side to the other and crushing my skull, and then, when Pj came to help me, the guy shot him through the head, then left. I went to Pj, after taking my shirt off and wrapping it around my head in order to see, as blood was streaming down my face. I flipped him over, kept telling him that I loved him, while a crows, who heard the shots, came out and were standing round me, in a kind way, and he was in my arms when he died 8 minutes later. I was a social worker and often would also have to have home visits to the most horrible areas of NYC. I cannot tell you how often I was beaten up, threatened, etc. Even by one religious colleague. So, I am hardly an innocent about these things. I understand your humiliation as your feeling helpless and probably, hopeless. So, I do understand. Peace!
02:35 PM on 09/21/2011
I'm so sorry for your terrible experience and for your loss. What horror you have endured! It saddens me that such violent prejudice still exists in the world. Frightened, narrow, ignorant, hateful minds fighting to give themselves a false sense of importance and a false supremacy over other human beings. It is sick. And I look forward to the day when full equality for ALL of our citizens is in place and those who would make these hateful attacks are all gone --or behind bars...
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Mark Twaine
03:19 PM on 09/21/2011
Such prejudice of which you speak is kept alive by politicians fighting to give themselves a false sense of supremacy. Consider the current Republican presidential hopefuls.
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garypeter
'it's intolerable being tolerated.'
10:41 PM on 09/21/2011
Thank you for expressing your feelings. I, too, look forward to that day. I wish Pj could have seen it with me. I also ask your forgiveness for when I saw my original post, I obviously did not proof it, and noted my spelling to be atrocious. I am sorry for that, and embarrassed. Peace and Love, may they wrap you within their folds and keep you warm.
05:40 AM on 09/21/2011
This life is just too short...Let it be, Let it be, Let it be
02:55 AM on 09/21/2011
I just cant understand some of the most hateful comments i have ever read on this.. As a gay and proud member of the USAF, today was the best day I will ever remember. The feeling of not living a lie at work, and being yourself... I already had a select few that knew about me, but they didn't judge and when I walked into work proud of who I am today... My Superintendent looked at me and said relax you can be you.. Greatest Feeling EVER!! So it is the same feeling when you actually tell your parents, I'm 26 and didn't tell my parents til i was 21.. I WISH my parents were as understanding as this mans father. In actuality I think that he did it to prove to himself that he doesn't really care about how others portray him as long as he can be who he is.. All the way from TX to Germany, I applaud you fellow military brother! May you sleep well at night knowing that there never has be anymore secrets... KUDOS , maybe this video will help another scared, struggling service member or maybe just the kid down the road that is terrified of what his family will think.. For all of the haters above, just think what if this video just prevented your kids suicide? Think about it!
02:40 PM on 09/21/2011
I agree with you 100%. This is a GREAT day for the USA and the world. It brings us all one step closer to becoming a truly democratic nation and an enlightened, compassionate and just society. I am celebrating this day, not only for my gay friends but also for the gay "community" everywhere that has been persecuted WAY too long...
02:13 AM on 09/21/2011
SO CUTE
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jbchartford
01:09 AM on 09/21/2011
What is it about gay people? They ALWAYS seem to need attention.
OK kid,you took a personal matter and made it public NEEDLESSLY.You took a huge chance on making your Dad look foolish by being caught off guard and reacting badly.Not like its GOOD news ya know.Just something else to work with as a parent.What else COULD he say?
Trust me,they ALWAYS knew you were gay as well as most of your friends.....just hoped not.
You got your ten minutes of fame now. Hope somebody slaps you crazy,not for being gay.But for being a selfish ass..ole.
12:25 AM on 09/21/2011
Also, maybe the young soldier is/was afraid he may not make it back home. Maybe he is/was afraid he may never see his father again.
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Skhylow
12:24 AM on 09/21/2011
Sir, believe it or not your parents have always known deep down, They were just waiting for you to be open with them I have always known my youngest was gay. He finally told me when he was 21. I love him to death and thank the Lord every day for such a wonderful loving child.